Lex A
I am truly sorry for your loss of PaGlenn, but congratulate you on finding your new little Top Hat. I hope she can repair some of the pain of what you endured and, at least fill at least a little of the void of what you lost...and hope you get into your 40 footer sooner than later.
Your humility and acceptance, in spite of the bureaucracy and suffering you and your son endured during the event, and since, is a quality that is sadly diminishing in our dysfunctional society today. No wonder we go cruising!!
The conflicts of interest between humanity/compassion and the dominant paradigm of constructs of procedures/professional protocol are appalling. I related to this aspect of your experience as I was in the position of 'walloper' many, many years ago..and it still makes my conscience flinch today.
As a 20 year-old Customs/Immigration Officer (sshh, don't tell The Coastal Passage) working a night shift at Brisbane Airport, a military helicopter landed, having rescued five people off a sinking yacht near Lord Howe Island. I don't have to describe them as you, Lex A have articulated the look and the emotional state perfectly.
Fortunately they had time to grab their passports. No luggage to conceal anything in!!
Ambulances had been admitted airside but were these used to take these people directly to hospital to address the threat of hypothermia on a cold July night?? NO!
Instead, they were marched through the Arrivals Hall like happy tourists to be cleared at the Immigration Line.
Then they were taken to hospital for medical attention.
It makes my blood boil that not one person, not two, but a whole shift of two organisations – Customs and Immigration – were complicit in that act of inhumanity..and even if I was a fresh-faced new recruit, I too allowed it to happen.
Lately, I've been hooking up with other people who, for other reasons, have lost everything..I mean everything, Lex A-style.
An amazing theme that runs through your experience and these peoples' is that they have retained their strength and dignity, both qualities one cannot place a price on.
Lex A, I'm really pleased Warren suggested you share this experience. I hope sharing helps.
Fair winds my friend
Trace