bumstein said...
Got a mate who is incredibly good at balancing home and adventure... Far out he does the hard yards at home and deservedly gets a leave pass to kite or surf here and there... My hat goes off to him!!

I on the other hand, have a very understanding partner who knows that without adventure, her man goes freakin spare and just isnt a nice person.. I have to admit ownership of that fact.. I'm a jerk, unless I get to channel my energy into kiting or surfing or something of the like.. My hat goes off to my girl for understanding and accepting that.. thanks babe x

Either way, there is always a balance... Just need to find the one you balance with

this is pretty much how it works for me. Personally I don't really want my wife to get into kiting. I like having my own time, and kiting gives me this. also as someone pointed out earlier if your wife is in to kiting the chances are you will be stuck with kiting ****ty bay chop instead of the awesome breaks down the beach because your wife gets scared in the waves, also whos going to look after the kids if your missus wants a kite. Stuff that.

wdric said...

Saffer said...
there are bigger things out there than kitesurfing.

really

Sure thing!
There's no wind ATM and the waves are a bit ****ty, Might have to fire up the Honda and go for a blast through the hills. For Sanity of course

bennie said...


Personally I don't really want my wife to get into kiting. I like having my own time, and kiting gives me this.

+1!!

love doing stuff with the lady, but I need my own stuff.. She likes to come and watch sometimes, that's nice.. But kiting is my time

KiteDesigner said...
I married a Kite Surfer 8+ years ago, but she turned into a farmer...

Now with 200+ eatable plants in the back yard, 20 guini pigs and a highly illegal amount of chickens 24+ from last count 2 kids and a dog, I can head down for a kite to do what I love while she gardens/catches up at friends places/home and does what she loves. Some times I take the kids down for some Kite Sup training. Some times we both go for a sup. Marriage can be hard. We both give each other time to follow our passions. Those who play together stay together, nothing brings you closer together than time apart.

Marriage + Kids + Kites + Sup = Awesomeness. (most of the time)

Brilliant.

Treat em mean keep em keen, do wat u want to do be wat u want a be yearrrrr ,consiounce is easily counteracted / forgoten with injec.tion of adrenalin

All great ideas until kids come along. Then the game irreversibly changes.

Me and the missus kite and we have a child, we take turns, one kites and one babysits, works well most of the time. After work kites have to be a bit shorter and there's no time to hang at the beach drinking beer. I like it when she drops me off for a downwinder. That's love

eppo said...
One kid is a holiday mate trust me. Yeh I to have the evil plan of having my kids kite. Ha ha ha ha (evil laugh).

Agreed... my oldest has already asked when can he start learning!
PS: is there a minimum age to start the groms?

DutchRooster said...

eppo said...
All great ideas until kids come along. Then the game irreversibly changes.

True. I have two kids. But I have a plan.... I'm going to make them little kitesurfers, so we can gang up on mama 3 to 1 in favour of hitting the beach every time the wind blows...

Applying the same philosophy to camping etc.[}:)]

Same here. My 2yr old daughter plays kitesurfing on my kiteboard in the living room and I take her to the beach as often as possible to watch others kite. Problem is that last time I went out and had my gear ready she wanted to come along and got upset when I left without her...that kinda spoils the fun but I got over it after hitting the beach

My wife does not like anything that is even slightly dangerous but she knows I do. She takes care of the little one while I am away. We'll have our second kid probably next week and she was ok with me going for a kite until last week provided she can get in touch with me any time. I just took a waterproof pouch and an old mobile phone with me...easy. Now I'm grounded for obvious reasons and will probably have to establish "extended lunchbreak kite sessions" for the next months

I support her a 100% when I'm at home and she let's me head out when the wind is up and I restrict myself to 2 sessions a week max. I mostly skip the social part of kiting, pump up the kite like a machine and kite nonstop until my body gives up to minimize downtime.

The key is to keep it balanced, especially with kids. Not cool for the wife to babysit on the weekends after babysitting the whole week. Kids make it really hard but it is possible...

Mine are 5 and 6 and already on a trainer kite. Lol. The plan is working. Ba ha ha ha ha ha ( evil laugh). The boy already surfs and he's only 5. The girl is well...being a girl.

Found this whilst surfing another kiting site - thought I would share as it seems quiet apt :-) ;-)

HOW TO BE SUCCESSFUL WITH WOMEN

If you are young and inexperienced with women, learn these key phrases and their meaning now and you will be spared a lifetime of misery.


(1) "Fine": This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

(2) "Five Minutes": If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

(3) "Nothing": This is the calm before the storm. When she is acting angry and you ask what is wrong, and she says "nothing" this means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

(4) "Go Ahead": This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

(5) "(Loud Sigh)": This is actually not a phrase, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)

(6) "That's Okay": This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

(7) "Thanks": A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you're welcome. (I want to add in a clause here - This is true, unless she says 'Thanks a lot' - that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say 'you're welcome', that will bring on a 'whatever').

(8) "Whatever": This is a woman's way of saying F-- YOU!

(9) "Don't worry about it, I got it": Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking 'What's wrong?' For the woman's response refer to # 3.

SUPPLEMENTARY INFORMATION: If you'd like to enhance your success with women further and become the star of every woman's dream, you need simply to learn the following three phrases and repeat them regularly:

(1) "I'm sorry"

(2) "Yes honey, you're right"

(3) "I love you"

So, there you have it. There is much talk about women being "complex", difficult to understand and requiring lots of time for understanding -- it's simply not true. If you understand and abide by the guidelines above your life can be happy and you can spend much more time kitesurfing, surfing, fishing, going out with the boys and doing whatever else rather than sitting at home in the back room wondering why she won't talk to you and preparing for divorce court.


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Plummet said...
I think this sums it up.

Classic

Good points buddy. Honestly though I was never driven to have kids. I'm about as paternal as ...sh1t nothing's coming, help me out. I'm not paternal alright!!

But she was hell bent of having kids and while I love my kids dearly I'm still not paternal!

So what does she do when say the kids are with the grand parents for a day or two?

I will tell you. Absolutely Farq all, or she will go around a friends place who have kids by the way and have a coffee and talk about whatever the Farq they talk about...times I've listened it is just a barrage of multiple conversations about multiple subjects that have little sequence or scope. Go figure.

But the point you are making above is sound. As I've said sometimes you just gotta be an asshole in their eyes. Since she has had kids it is like some different software program has loaded into her psyche. The other day she said I had changed!

I reminded her I stood her up 4 times, ( the first four times) because I was out kiting!

Change I have not my darling.

Eppo, I'm worried about you.

Many posts in kitesurfing marital problems topic.

Not one post in wa: big Friday topic.

I think you need some counseling.

... no wonder the negative vibe Eppo, scrabble would have been impossible for you the way you spell sometimes