One of my best friends from Europe is about become single and happy, because the misses doesn't understand he has to invest time and money in kitesurfing. He is away all the time.

Did you ever hear about anyone who went through this because kitesurfing is something his misses doesn't enjoy/understand?

I don't think it's that hard to please them both.

Men have an evolutionary drive to procreate with as many females of the species as possible and with this comes a propensity for violence. The female may only bear one child at a time and is programmed to find the best genetics possible including the need for support. This produces a greater propensity for a caring nurturing state. If you don't believe me read your farqing history books again.

Now when society and indeed survival takes this away men need to supplement this genetically programmed desire for something else. We still need to hunt but kiting is one means of directing and satisfying this primitive motive. How calm cool and at peace do you feel after a kite. Then the itch starts again. Both women anden have been fed this modern crap that we are all the same all equal. This then creates a discourse between their constructs in modern society and their programmed primitive motives. This creates the conflict. The solution. Not sure. Be a prick and survive.

There is a reason they are called bitches...

Just saying

Saffer said...
If you want to kite every day, stay single and hire prostitutes, its probably cheaper and you'll get laid more often.

damn I wish I had been smart enough to think of that a few years back!

very simple math....
which fun last's longer?

most likely KITING!

Give her your best 3 minutes and then hit the beach.

csjena said...
very simple math....
which fun last's longer?

most likely KITING!

hmmm.... some practice, and the answer may not be so obvious...

Haha; why do all the male kiters struggle with this one?! :-)

Personally a non-kiting partner is the best! You don't have to argue over which spot to go to; nor for how long you go kiting for; who will fly what kite/use what board; who will get new kite gear that year; or in the case of kids, who will watch them and who will kite!

As to the issue that it is 'time consuming'. Learn to balance it, and point out that if you played a team sport you wouldn't have so much flexibility to go away on weekends (provided the destination has a kiteable beach of course!).

If you do sacrifice a day of kiting for the partner, make sure they know it, but DON'T blame them, say it is ok, your happy to miss a sesh for them, and you will go another day instead; and guess what you won't be in the **** if you go another day as you have earned some brownie points.

Also work out what times kiting will be good; if it's a typical 2-6pm seabreeze; slot that in as non-partner time each day. Get the partner into that routine; and they notice less.

If your partner is busy and doesn't know you've been kiting; don't tell them; then they won't know how much you do actually kite!

If your injured and shouldn't kite for a week don't let on; but maximise partner time so the week after you can kite more!!

Cheers Miss Jessie :-)

Miss Jessie said...
Haha; why do all the male kiters struggle with this one?! :-)

Personally a non-kiting partner is the best! You don't have to argue over which spot to go to; nor for how long you go kiting for; who will fly what kite/use what board; who will get new kite gear that year; or in the case of kids, who will watch them and who will kite!

As to the issue that it is 'time consuming'. Learn to balance it, and point out that if you played a team sport you wouldn't have so much flexibility to go away on weekends (provided the destination has a kiteable beach of course!).

If you do sacrifice a day of kiting for the partner, make sure they know it, but DON'T blame them, say it is ok, your happy to miss a sesh for them, and you will go another day instead; and guess what you won't be in the **** if you go another day as you have earned some brownie points.

Also work out what times kiting will be good; if it's a typical 2-6pm seabreeze; slot that in as non-partner time each day. Get the partner into that routine; and they notice less.

If your partner is busy and doesn't know you've been kiting; don't tell them; then they won't know how much you do actually kite!

If your injured and shouldn't kite for a week don't let on; but maximise partner time so the week after you can kite more!!

Cheers Miss Jessie :-)

Too right!
Except for the part where I have a sneaky kite - you know juggle work around the wind, she can almost always pick it.
But not that it matters as I have always surfed and later kited,and surfed. But before I met her straight up i said I've always been an ocean junkie and will continue to do so.
She and the kids do "chick" things when I go, their happy, I'm happy.

BoardGirl said...
Have to agree that marriages don't break up over kiting / sailing, there will definately be other reasons.

Simple solutions:-

1/ learn to balance - they say everything in moderation; or

2/ stay single and do whatever the hell you want when you want.

I lean towards # 2

Yep #2 is best

Miss Jessie said...
Haha; why do all the male kiters struggle with this one?! :-)

Personally a non-kiting partner is the best! You don't have to argue over which spot to go to; nor for how long you go kiting for; who will fly what kite/use what board; who will get new kite gear that year; or in the case of kids, who will watch them and who will kite!


Cheers Miss Jessie :-)

I have a mate whose missus surfs. He is doomed to always surf small waves in protected spots because she won't surf anything over three foot. Prior to them hooking up he used to surf eight foot reefies with me. I imagine kiting would be the same "I want to go to the lake, the waves scare me."

Good on you girls for wading in to this topic. I was starting to wonder whether it was only blokes that read it!

It sounds like a cliche, but there's stuff I love doing, stuff she loves doing, there is a bit of an overlap ( not kiting unfortunately) and you just make it work.

My wife often laughs that I'm a husband 0 to 15 knots.

But she does a passion for arts and other stuff that she pursues,with me in tow sometimes.

Nothing wrong with differences, it's accommodating them that makes or breaks.

Cheers

kitegirl21 said...

Dave Whettingsteel said...
Good on you girls for wading in to this topic. I was starting to wonder whether it was only blokes that read it!

It sounds like a cliche, but there's stuff I love doing, stuff she loves doing, there is a bit of an overlap ( not kiting unfortunately) and you just make it work.

My wife often laughs that I'm a husband 0 to 15 knots.

But she does a passion for arts and other stuff that she pursues,with me in tow sometimes.

Nothing wrong with differences, it's accommodating them that makes or breaks.

Cheers

+1
sounds like you have it made, good for you!

Thanks, hmmm maybe I overplayed it, hahaha

Take my hat off to you girls who have found the lure of ocean and wind. Want to know what I think. Well here it is. This is generalising as the girls have shown women to can find and pursue such hobbies. But guess what girls? You are in the minority. Most women I know have no real hobbies or a passion to follow. Their kids (you girls have kids"), you and organising every possible bloody minute second becomes their hobby! They don't understand a single point of focus, their focus is all over their holistically wired brains, hormones and body parts. They would rather and here it is...they would rather you be at home doing absolutely farq all, playing some god forsaken women's weekly idealistic family script, than out kiting. So you take off a session. You sit there.

You ask what now? And she turns on the telly or organises some of her moronic friends and their even greater moronic husbands to come around and bore you within an inch of your farqin life. You smile and just resist the pimeval urge to smash every stupid teeth in his neanthderthal mouth as pure bullsh1t flows seamlessly out of his cok sucking mouth.

I'm currently on holidays for eight long torturous days with my partner the kids and guess who? Her parents. Oh farq she is in heaven, sitting around like some dead head scene from the partridge family.

Choose your mate you say. Wish it was so damn easy.

The only thing that counters all my rhetoric is my kids. Life would have an even greater tone of existentialism without them. They are my life. That's the only thing that keeps me from falling into the primitive biological patterns I grained in our genetics I talked about before.

But I do say man or women. Know your rights as an individual, stick to your guns, and if your partner wants to bitch and moan ( men also, a lot of men I know are castrated pansies and the number is growing), let them. Do what ya gotta do,

YOU ARE NOT THERETO MAKE THEM HAPPY!

THAT IS an individuals responsibility. Suck it up. Go kiting.


Oh ****, they are playing scrabble now. SOMEBODY KILL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

eppo said...
Take my hat off to you girls who have found the lure of ocean and wind. Want to know what I think. Well here it is. This is generalising as the girls have shown women to can find and pursue such hobbies. But guess what girls? You are in the minority. Most women I know have no real hobbies or a passion to follow. Their kids (you girls have kids"), you and organising every possible bloody minute second becomes their hobby! They don't understand a single point of focus, their focus is all over their holistically wired brains, hormones and body parts. They would rather and here it is...they would rather you be at home doing absolutely farq all, playing some god forsaken women's weekly idealistic family script, than out kiting. So you take off a session. You sit there.

You ask what now? And she turns on the telly or organises some of her moronic friends and their even greater moronic husbands to come around and bore you within an inch of your farqin life. You smile and just resist the pimeval urge to smash every stupid teeth in his neanthderthal mouth as pure bullsh1t flows seamlessly out of his cok sucking mouth.

I'm currently on holidays for eight long torturous days with my partner the kids and guess who? Her parents. Oh farq she is in heaven, sitting around like some dead head scene from the partridge family.

Choose your mate you say. Wish it was so damn easy.

The only thing that counters all my rhetoric is my kids. Life would have an even greater tone of existentialism without them. They are my life. That's the only thing that keeps me from falling into the primitive biological patterns I grained in our genetics I talked about before.

But I do say man or women. Know your rights as an individual, stick to your guns, and if your partner wants to bitch and moan ( men also, a lot of men I know are castrated pansies and the number is growing), let them. Do what ya gotta do,

YOU ARE NOT THERETO MAKE THEM HAPPY!

THAT IS an individuals responsibility. Suck it up. Go kiting.


Oh ****, they are playing scrabble now. SOMEBODY KILL MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Ah, the scrabble phase. It gets worse. One day you'll wake up, go out to buy a new vacuum cleaner and find yourself getting excited about getting it home and trying it out.

That's when you start wondering if they should legalise euthanasia

[b]kitegirl21 said...[
Old mate in the original post is obviously too self obsessed to care about anything else other than himself.

Hit the nail on the head there.. Plus he's British.

I sharted when he said he had a partner that wasn't another bloke.