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needsalt
needsalt
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24 Mar 2013 3:47pm
When you're getting the silent treatment, what's the best way to deal with it?

I'm having trouble remembering back to kindergarten to select the right approach
thePup
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24 Mar 2013 1:04pm
needsalt said...

When you're getting the silent treatment, what's the best way to deal with it?

I'm having trouble remembering back to kindergarten to select the right approach


hmmmmm some flowery things , a bottle of what she likes (or two) a light massage (for her) and you do the cooking (or grab what she likes take away) and yeah well ..... take it from there hehehehe [}:)]
needsalt
needsalt
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24 Mar 2013 4:09pm
Hehe... I'm the 'she' in this situation. Does the above still apply?
Mark _australia
Mark _australia
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24 Mar 2013 1:13pm
I don't believe you - a man would not be so juvenile.


thePup
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24 Mar 2013 1:18pm
needsalt said...
Hehe... I'm the 'she' in this situation. Does the above still apply?


ahhhh sweet jesus ummmm well of course ........ dearie me I put my foot in that one .... tell your boy to lift his game
paulford
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24 Mar 2013 2:17pm
So he doesn't want to speak with you, he is pissed with you obviously. If you have been a bad girl then apologise, we all make mistakes. Don't take it to heart, the silence is meant to hurt you and twist you. If he observes you are suffering then its more to his enjoyment. Chin up and carry on.
In this situation i simply got on with my day, realising the method of punishment will soon end.

Pitbull
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24 Mar 2013 3:47pm
Saying sorry seems to go a long way.
sameh
sameh
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24 Mar 2013 3:53pm
Oh well I'm going to be the elephant in the room and come out and say it. Us men are simple folk, there's very little a woman can do to upset us that isn't immediately forgetten in exchange for felatio.

It's like that simple act presses our reset button and all is good with the world!
needsalt
needsalt
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24 Mar 2013 7:04pm
Pitbull said...
Saying sorry seems to go a long way.


Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong
kiteboy dave
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24 Mar 2013 6:12pm
If I'm not saying anything to my wife it's not because I'm "giving her the silent treatment". It's because I'm angry and I don't think talking about it is going to do anything but end up in a fight. Or maybe I just don't have anything nice to say. I'd rather she stay quiet and I stay quiet and sooner or later the mood will break on it's own and we can have 'the talk' and clear the air. I'd rather let it happen in it's own time that try to have 'the talk' when we're angry.

landyacht
landyacht
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24 Mar 2013 4:15pm
what about a large whiteboard /chalk board /printed sign on the front door saying "whats the problem?"
if I came home to that I would realize i was p*ss*ng somebody off and would ask why.
men can be a bit slow
jbshack
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24 Mar 2013 4:22pm
needsalt said...
Pitbull said...
Saying sorry seems to go a long way.


Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong



Hes a guy, problem is if its more than 5 minutes since the incident he will have forgotten why he's ignoring you anyway

James
James
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24 Mar 2013 4:23pm
needsalt said...
Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong



We expect you to KNOW what you've done wrong , J
MDSXR6T
MDSXR6T
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24 Mar 2013 4:35pm
needsalt said...
Pitbull said...
Saying sorry seems to go a long way.


Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong



Sorry is the answer to everything

You dont actually have to know why or even mean it but it solves many of lifes problems!
Mobydisc
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24 Mar 2013 7:41pm
MDSXR6T said...
needsalt said...
Pitbull said...
Saying sorry seems to go a long way.


Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong



Sorry is the answer to everything

You dont actually have to know why or even mean it but it solves many of lifes problems!



Sorry does not mean that much anymore. People say it without being truely repentant for what they have done. Sorry is misused all the time and have effectively become meaningless.
youngbull
youngbull
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24 Mar 2013 7:27pm
What odd reply's. 1 and only thought - just enjoy it

Not enough of the silent treatment goes on in my house.
FormulaNova
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24 Mar 2013 5:29pm
needsalt said...

When you're getting the silent treatment, what's the best way to deal with it?

I'm having trouble remembering back to kindergarten to select the right approach



I would try the direct approach - 'hey, what's up, you seem too quiet'. Of course, if there is a response, you're going to have to listen.

Ignoring it is not going to help anyone if there is actually a problem.

Carantoc
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24 Mar 2013 5:58pm













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Craig66
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24 Mar 2013 9:33pm
needsalt said...
Pitbull said...
Saying sorry seems to go a long way.


Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong



wow, now you know how us guys feel when we get the silent treatment
Razzonater
Razzonater
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24 Mar 2013 6:52pm
It may be his time of month, be supportive and don't react to his taunting.
This will only cause more problems.
The more understanding you show now the easier it will be in the long run, some men once a month and generally on the full moon will suffer from what is only a natural bodily function.
Once it is over things will go back to normal.
Try not to be insensitive as his hormone levels will be through the roof.
And also it's clear to me a few men replying to this have clearly broken what is called " the bro code" this is disappointing to see.
Fraternising with the enemy unbelievable you must all know about filthy girl germs surely didn't you learn anything in grade 1.
If those early fundamental principals were not ingrained in you at that age than its clear the next 11 years of schooling were clearly a wasted time
needsalt
needsalt
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24 Mar 2013 9:56pm
paulford said...
So he doesn't want to speak with you, he is pissed with you obviously. If you have been a bad girl then apologise, we all make mistakes. Don't take it to heart, the silence is meant to hurt you and twist you. If he observes you are suffering then its more to his enjoyment. Chin up and carry on.
In this situation i simply got on with my day, realising the method of punishment will soon end.



Thank you Paul. Very wise. And useful no matter who is dishing out the silence. Unfortunately it doesn't only happen in relationships
theDoctor
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24 Mar 2013 10:13pm
needsalt said...
Would be only too happy to apologise if I could only figure out what I have done wrong


did you ask
hamburglar
hamburglar
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24 Mar 2013 10:26pm
Sounds like he ran out of salt
cisco
cisco
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25 Mar 2013 1:49am
Reminds me of the two guys talking.

One says "My wife hasn't talked to me for two months."

The other says "Really. I'll give you $10,000 if you will swap her for mine."
pierrec45
pierrec45
NSW
2005 posts
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25 Mar 2013 3:57am
There's a difference between not talking as in I don't care much about you, and as in I'm angry (which I find childish as you say).

I don't talk much to the missus when we've gone around a question much and every time it gets worse. I just avoid and go do other things.

Drama is a form of control, and I'd rather eschew drama. Call it silent treatment if you will...
thePup
thePup
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25 Mar 2013 2:52am
needsalt said...

When you're getting the silent treatment, what's the best way to deal with it?

I'm having trouble remembering back to kindergarten to select the right approach


Sooooooooo ....... Tell me how your Flowers,wine,light massage & nice dinner was last night
needsalt
needsalt
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25 Mar 2013 10:21am
Lol. I'm still waiting...
sn
sn
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25 Mar 2013 10:40am
needsalt- it might be time to bounce up to your fella, grab him by his nose, ear or something he is rather attached to give said appendage a tweak and while you have his full attention ask him to spill his guts..

every now and then a head on attack is needed as we blokes can be both pig headed and a bit thick sometimes!

stephen
doggie
doggie
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25 Mar 2013 10:44am
Things are very bad when I go quiet [}:)]
felixdcat
felixdcat
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25 Mar 2013 10:45am
thePup said...
needsalt said...

When you're getting the silent treatment, what's the best way to deal with it?

I'm having trouble remembering back to kindergarten to select the right approach


hmmmmm some flowery things , a bottle of what she likes (or two) a light massage (for her) and you do the cooking (or grab what she likes take away) and yeah well ..... take it from there hehehehe [}:)]



does that mean she ' not talking...... actually not making any noise with her mouth???????? And you want to stop that blissful situation????
Do nothing and just enjoy as lon as you can.......... it will not go for long!
Adoy
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25 Mar 2013 1:49pm


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