"In twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you did't do"
Mark Twain
Select to expand quoteneedsalt said...
I'm so grateful for everything I have - But I hate it.
Hi Needsalt,
Perhaps you are experiencing biological urge.
I may be out-of-line here ...
please correct me if I'm being rude.
Select to expand quoteGonebush said...
Having spent the last week digging post holes and putting in a fence, I am well aware that things could be a whole lot worse.
you must be doing it wrong.
rockdrill, aircompressor, powergel, detcord,
makes the job both fun and easy 
stephen
There's a lot of thoughts you've missed in the middle there waveslave! It really is only work that I hate. Hehe... biological urge? Not that I'm aware of. I'm intrigued - what is it you think I might be urging for? 
You could be onto something. I think maybe the more meaningful your life is outside of work, the more insignificant work becomes?
I think Gonebush could be right - these days we grow up believing work can be fulfilling and are disappointed when it's not. Maybe that's the conundrum - we know we're lucky and know it could be worse, but that somehow doesn't stop us from wanting it to be better?
Battle, I often see another group of people who resent their jobs - those who care a lot and work really hard and are slowly crushed when they see their efforts amount to nothing and the things they believe in kinda crapped on. I think sometimes the people who care less seem to roll with the punches a lot better. Maybe I need to be more like that?
Half of me says - what's wrong with you?? Just be grateful for what you have!! The other half backs up all the inspiring things people have posted here - you'll never know if you don't try, do you want to die wondering?
Maybe no one ever found something amazing by accepting something crappy? At least there's hope in change?
Maybe, 
although in my experience the ones who don't care much don't go too far. You know what? You don't sound like someone who doesn't care.
And if you're working hard and getting crushed by the people around you ( maybe a supervisor or boss who doesn't care) then get out when you can afford it.
A roof that doesnt leak a reliable car and fridge full of food . 2boards 2 sails 50 k a year 3 day weekend. Took 30 years to forget about the must have flash car and double enSuite crap. Time and freedom is more important.hit up your boss to reduce your hours and get back to your family and yourself, Lifes short.I lost a wife to illness some years ago and would have gladly lived in a tent to have gained more memories with her"
Select to expand quoteneedsalt said...
Hehe... biological urge? Not that I'm aware of. I'm intrigued - what is it you think I might be urging for?
Well, sex of course.
The urge to have sex is the biological urge to procreate.
Simply, we are animals ...
and we are destined to carry on the species.
Sex feels good (sometimes) because nature evolved it that way,
so folks want to have sex regularly and therefore create offspring.
If you use contraceptives it doesn't mean you've lost the urge to have a kid,
it just means you are still going thru the motions without actually producing one.
lol.
The urge is still there,
but we are clever enough to be in charge.
Is natural to seek happiness in anything in life, especially your work, where so much time is spent.
If you’re not happy, move on........... it’s really that simple. When you’re old and grey, you won’t wish that you meaninglessly suffered more than necessary. Suffering with meaning is a totally different thing. Yet I can understand your quandary on what to do, and which way to go. Your mind will lead you all over the earth in the search for happiness.
Your mind will promise you happiness in new things, like a new shirt, a new relationship, a pay rise, a job with good conditions. Yet when we acquire these things our minds at some point move on to a new thing that represents happiness. Maybe we get bored with the new thing or we just change our mind about how important they really are when hindsight becomes available.
Your heart on the other hand is a part of you that may speak less loudly. It’s a part of us that is quietly confident that it knows best for us, so it doesn’t need to shout for attention. It’s not reckless and will not lead you anywhere unsafe, or anywhere you don’t want to go. It cares not for the cars, houses, jobs or promises of a better life in something outside of our selves. It wants what you truly want, and couldn’t give a rip about what other people think.
Quiet your mind the best you can and listen to your heart. If you feel frustrated or confused, this is your mind trying to run the show, as it does. Be patient with yourself. You’ll know what to do.
Select to expand quoteneedsalt said...
I'm so grateful for everything I have - health, roof over my head, family, friends, shed full of saltwater toys etc. I hate the thought of ever taking things for granted.
I have a well-paying permanent job in a good location with good conditions and I am very grateful for that. Good jobs in regional locations seem increasingly scarce and I know I should appreciate what I have. But I hate it. It's big hours, high stress, I don't believe in what I do anymore and I don't trust the people I work with anymore. I keep trying really really hard to find the sunshine in it, but it just sucks ass.
How do you know when you're just taking things for granted and should suck it up? How do you know when it's time to man up and take a risk and search for happiness?
Is moving on reckless and ungrateful and stupid? Or brave and true? And how do you know the difference?
You can't be truly fulfilled if you hate what you are doing for work. If you don't believe in what you are doing then you are only doing it for the money. I guess the answer to your question is, with your commitments can you afford to work for less? and can you downscale your monetary expectations and still be happy? ... because it is likely that more job satisfaction will equal less pay.
Changing jobs is always a brave and scary thing to do, but often the rewards are well worth it.
I have a friend who recently lost his job as an accountant. He has started his own home handyman business and loves it. He can work when he wants to, his skills are in demand and it pays well.
I am a professional but I find my profession too stressful to do full time. However I love doing it part time! I also work in a windsurfing shop and work as an artist. Three very different things, which give lots of variety and allow me to use lots of my skills, help people, and indulge my passions. I don't earn a lot but it is enough to live modestly and still have fun. I think I am happier than I have been in years!
Maybe you could work part time at your well paid job and do something more fulfilling with the rest of your time?
Moving on is taking a risk, but if you don't move on you will be in a downward spiral emotionally and that will affect your relationships..
There are, unfortunately, very, very few people who truly love there job; who can't wait for the next thrilling day at their chosen vocation. The vast, vast majority of people work simply to finance the rest of their lives. If that's you, welcome to "normal".
For the last 6 years, I have been fortunate to really enjoy my work. The last 2 or 3 have been the best years ever, both with the colleagues, and money. I work from home a little bit, and when I go into the office, it is with a great bunch of blokes / engineers. Ever single person in there agrees it is the best place to work, with excellent culture. There's never any anger or attitude... No blame culture.
I know I will be able to have beers with these guys, and discuss the projects we did... When we are old!
Ah the old don't trust the people I work with. Friends at work are only work colleges who haven't betrayed you yet. I work by myself for myself & I will tell you its the best . But I dont trust the bloke I work with either . He totally gives me the ****s do this do that work harder make more money
Select to expand quotetogalog said...
A roof that doesnt leak a reliable car and fridge full of food . 2boards 2 sails 50 k a year 3 day weekend. Took 30 years to forget about the must have flash car and double enSuite crap. Time and freedom is more important.hit up your boss to reduce your hours and get back to your family and yourself, Lifes short.I lost a wife to illness some years ago and would have gladly lived in a tent to have gained more memories with her"
Couldn't agree more. ;-)
