coming in a bit late, but beter late than never.
Doggie, I also had depression couple of times.
If there is one comforting advice I can give you it's this: - what you are going through is only a temporary state which will pass. IT WILL PASS. And when you come out of it you start enjoying life twice as much as before. What you go through makes you a stronger person in the long run - you learn a lot from it. I can say that I trully started enjoying life after having couple of depressions and going through some difficulties etc... it was a very important life learning curve. I never wish i could go back to being younger... although if i did, i'd definitelly make different choices.
But some other things i also learned:
- it's hard making actions and changes when you are depressed
- family will usually not understand you and it's waste talking to them (most of time) unless you of course have someone close and very understanding.
- Avoid negative people at all costs ... also avoid being exposed to any kind of negativity - things like newspaper and TV have so much bad and negative stuff. I felt a big difference when stopping to follow news for a while back then
SomeOtherGuy said:
The shrink told me that to beat depression I needed to fill my life with things that make me happy. You can't be depressed when you're happy she said. Thinking back, I can see that for years I had been filling my life with lots of stuff that I felt I had to do and putting off all the stuff that I enjoyed.
- Agree with that too. Although people can be trapped in a certain circumstances and can't change things straight away without paying big penalties (financial or whatever). But the key is to know that things will pass, and you just have to have a high level plan and strive towards it. You know that now it's how it is, but in X months/years you will finish your current phase and there are great things coming your way.
Also agree with Gypsy. It's not always material things that will make you happy. But you are smart and things that happen to you are only clues and pieces of the puzzle. You will use them in time to make things work better for you. Whether it's finding better job, or more fun hobbies or something else and even more meaninful... and there are such things...
