busterwa said...
I refuse to accept responsibility for my own screw ups in life...
In reality our problems are created by a whole host of reasons not always of our own making.
It's easy for me to blame my problems on other people. ... As an adult, it then becomes your own responsibility to deal with those problems,
Never blame others for your own problems. I believe people have bad luck ... My philosophy is this: "Everything that happens to me in my life is the result ...
Why do we need to blame anyway? And why don't we simply bypass these urges and go directly to the real source of the problem?
What makes us blame?
Actually, there are several reasons. The main one being that, as the philosophers infer, there is an error built into the human mind; the idea that suffering is optional. This causes us to believe that when we suffer, we must have done something wrong.
In effect then, no matter how we label our suffering; as evil, disease, mental illness, neglect, abuse, done on purpose, whatever; if suffering happens, we believe someone caused it by making an error or worse by purposely doing something wrong.
This then is a good starting point in our discussion. We, by nature, blame because we frame our suffering as either mistakes or wrongdoings.
Buster , Can I offer you simply a point of view.....
Concider this for a moment.......
Everything that has happened throughout your whole life has lead to this point in time right here , right now. Every choice and discission YOU made has lead right here mate!
So what choices and actions are you going to take that will put you where you want to be in the future???
Blaming is a cop out that has no responsibility or power and I bet you feel low (underneath ur ego).
Trust me , have a look in your life and ask your self "where am I cause in the matter". I promise you that you will start to have instant power in areas of life that really matter to you.
Good luck my friend,,,,, and dont be afraid to be wrong once in a while