She told me that I don't listen.


Or something like that, I dunno.....

Suggestions?

If she ever says " Mark , I'm tired " that's when you have to start listening, I did'nt know that way back then, I live alone now, great in summer, crap in winter. Hope you were'nt looking for something much more profound than that, it's all I've got for ya. J

Mark _australia said...

She told me that I don't listen.


Or something like that, I dunno.....

Suggestions?

reduce your forum time to 8hours a night and listen to ya mum

Obviously you are not doing a good enough job of pretending to listen.
Try changing the subject when she gets after you, talk about some nonsense she's interested in and she will forget all about you not listening.
A really good shagging will usually make her all lovey dovey for at least a day or two.

As she rambles on pay attention every few minutes for ten seconds or so and immediately throw out any comment you can think of then go back to your business for a few minutes.
If she accuses you of not paying attention say, "I was thinking about what you said" and make make a comment about something you may have accidentally heard her say in the last few minutes.

theDoctor said...







Bitches are like stitches....

You pull em and they come out....

Trent from punchy taught me that...

You mean "bitches are like stitches, yoou take em out (kfc maccas) and they open up" "HUMMMER N A CHICKENNN FEEEEEEED"

Listen to everything she says.
Then do the opposite.

given that I have a cross between industrial deafness and selective hearing, my wife now, is conditioned to my "disa" ability or indeed lack of ability to hear let alone listen, its a win /win situation except that now my only crime is "I just don't understand"...

Communication is not rocket science. If she says you're not listening it means
1. you're not listening
2. you are listening but you're failing to follow through
3. she's not actually communicating what she wants to say

You seem like a moderately smart person (when you're not wrong about stuff) so 1 and 3 should be easy to resolve - if it's an important issue make sure you discuss it at a time where both of you can give it your full attention - and if you're not sure what she's trying to say keep on discussing until you do.
Number 2's a bit harder - if she wants something from you that you can't give her - let her know, let her know why and see if there's a compromise. In most cases it's better to do something that makes your partner happy, because then they'll generally reciprocate by doing something nice for you. MOST relationship issues benefit tremendously from at least 1 partner just trying a bit harder.

I find 1's and 2's easy enough. Not sure what a number 3 is though. How hard do I have to push to get one of them out?

ockanui said...
given that I have a cross between industrial deafness and selective hearing,

sounds a bit like me, my sandwich maker is so used to hearing "wot?", "say again?", "huh", "whats that?" and me blaming my dodgy hearing and the roaring & ringing in the background for stuff, that I can get away with (almost) anything.

stephen

Diver said...

...I actually said this as a response once. She replied "No you don't."

True story.

Chris6791 said...

sn said...

ockanui said...
given that I have a cross between industrial deafness and selective hearing,

sounds a bit like me, my sandwich maker is so used to hearing "wot?", "say again?", "huh", "whats that?" and me blaming my dodgy hearing and the roaring & ringing in the background for stuff, that I can get away with (almost) anything.

stephen

I still laugh every time I see this reference to your other half as a 'sandwich maker'

Me too. I'm not referring to mine as anything else from now on.

This is how it goes in my house.... I'll ask my sammich maker a specific short question requiring a short one sentence answer, her reply will be long and spin off in another direction entirely, when she is finally finished or I can break in somehow, again I will ask the same exact question verbatim, only then will it sink in what I was asking her and perhaps if I'm lucky I'll get my answer.
Who's not listening?

lotofwind said...

FormulaNova said...

Mark _australia said...
^^^do realise it is a joke muzza? but I will be sure to apply the tips anyway.
BTW I am not even moderately smart so I appreciate the compliment.

I knew it was a joke, but I didn't want to get involved in a discussion about you and Lotofwind.

Na , I can't be his missus,, he listens to everything I say and responds with really long winded whinnie answeres. I think he is my bitch, um,,er ,,sandwich maker.

Actually that's a very good point!

You must still be in the getting to know each other stage of your relationship.