Hi all

Here is my story ...

married for 21 years 5 children from marriage 3 are underage.

He was ordered to leave the family home. Separated on august 2016

im a stay at home mum last 15years. He has been the main provider and my $$$ mainly for food and kids expenses.
He pays child support and nothing else.
I live in the family home with the 4 children. One of them live with him 50%

He hasnt been amicable since separation.. and I had no other choice than to file court orders to put land on the market. Was granted by the judge. We sold one and the other he refused to sign the offer of sale. I put in enforcement Orders through court and was given authority of that sale of land. We lost that buyer. Still trying to sell that land.

Our family home is mortgaged to the full due to him using equity in the home for his use. He had separate bank accounts.
When I confronted him with that he will say to me that it's his money and he can do whatever he wants and that I never provided for the family and that I don't need to know. He dealt with all the finances and all mortgages.

Ive discovered international bank transfers and offshore accounts that his deposited years ago.

We we have had conciliation conference and honestly was a waste. Trial is set for next year.

2007 he took his super out and did a SMSF. He runs the SMSF. Lost 1.5mil and the book value of it is at nil value.

I've been in contact with the bank and am under financial hardship Mainly for the land. Family home and the equity loans I've keep up to date.

My offer to to him was 70/30.

I feel so upset in knowing that he has done all this behind my back when I've been a great mum and a great wife.
And the fact that he doesn't care if the kids live on the streets is beyond me.

Im in desperate need of help and advice in what to do from anyone who's had a similar case.

He earns over $100k I'm on government payments.

Appreciate any feedback.

Thanks.