Spoke to a mate last night for the first time since he tried to committ suicide a couple of weeks ago. Man what sadness in his voice, totally despondent, his recovery and future centered around coming to terms with and resolving so many issues that led to his decision to try and take his life. Nothing is the same, his family are hurting. To often we mask the reality with a mix of bravado and she'll be right attitude, with a lack of willingnes or knowledge to confront or talk about the issues and our vulnerabilities, it's a male thing. In this guy's life a paring back of what really is important, health, family and happiness with the material possession thing way back in the distance. Balance, I think is the key in all aspects of our lifes also we are all lucky to have surfing as a centering of balance that helps that focus , well at least in my life..... phew